The LDS Church Not Good for Families

I’m in a de facto mixed marriage and it ain’t fun. My wife’s pretty cool about it; she knows I’m not a big believer (we’re both converts; none of our parents are Morg), but I still go through the motions of church attendance and haven’t formally resigned yet. There are so many strings the Church ties you with. You can read details about my situation at an older post and a recent post about my view of the Church at my blog.

The responses at on that particular thread were quite helpful and will probably be useful to you too. The advice seemed to be to go slow, but not super slow. Detox gradually for yourself and your family.

The more recent post at my blog was started over discussions at two different sites listing Top Ten Cults. The LDS Church is not listed in the top ten, but it seems to be in a number of folks’ top twenty because the two sites’ threads I contributed to each had people talking about the cultic qualities of the Church and suggesting it for inclusion in the Top Ten.

The definitions on what makes a cult “a cult” get tricky and allow LDS apologists like Jeff Lindsay to point speciously to early Christian church behavior and say, “See, they were a ‘cult’–and the Church is no different: So if the Church is a ‘cult,’ then it is in good company.” (See his cult page).   Of course, he’s being disingenuous by clinging to a particular, sociological definition of cult and ignoring how the Church busts up families (even while it hypocritically talks about “strengthening families”).

The Church is a cult in the destructive sense (not Jim Jones or Charles Manson destructive, but also not merely in the strictest, neutral academic sense of being simply a harmless splinter group either: The Church damages, often enough irreparably, the FAMILY relationships of those newly “inactive members” who choose not to buy into it). Look at all the folks like us on these ex-Mormon sites trying to cope with keeping their families intact (or having their families demolished) because, as you put it, they do not want to play ball with the Church anymore. You don’t see this kind of stress put on people in mainstream protestant religions. My folks were Baptist and Methodist, and went to each others’ churches, changed churches, went through alternating periods of inactivity, etc., and never dreamed of divorcing over a #@$@% church or denomination affiliation! My wife’s parents were on again, off again Disciples of Christ, and her Mom’s family were lukewarm Presbyterians.  These religious differences never caused any parents to miss children’s weddings or to have awful or non-existent relationships with their kids (or to be depressed, suicidal, driven to drink, or divorce, etc.).  Organizations that do those things to departing members on a routine basis cannot be benign.  Again, check the hundreds or thousands of exit stories posted from former Mormons–people are obviously wounded deeply when they leave this group and in part because the church’s organization is coercive.

See original post here.


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